Broke all the Supernanny rules

Today Tobey dawdled when it was time to change his clothes and diaper. And I was not up for this common toddler game as we were already running late for playgroup at our house. I needed to get him dressed so I could shower before everyone shows up. Although we're not strictly or exclusively Supernanny followers, I do think some of the reasons behind how she does things makes sense. So here are the rules that I broke:

- I got angry. I really don't think that Tobey dawdles just to get a reaction out of me, but he got it anyway, possibly because this was all occuring in front of my mom and I was feeling a necessity to show that I'm in charge, not my child. After I counted to 10 and he didn't come (although he made a feeble attempt by pointing in the right direction), I picked him up and tucked all 30+ lbs. of him under my arm like a football and toted him off to our room to change out of frustration.
- I threatened the naughty corner but didn't give it although I think he didn't heed my warning.
- I took away a toy that I said I would for not going to change his diaper. But once that toy was taken away and I had dragged him off to change, I also didn't let him play with the pillows on our bed, even though the pillows weren't "part of the deal" and had nothing to do with his original offense. But I was so frustrated with him that I wasn't going to let him have any fun until I was done with the change.
- I took offense personally and I showed him personal disapproval ("Mommy is not happy with Tobey right now."). I should have said I wasn't happy with the behavior, but I made it personal and said I wasn't happy with HIM. Don't know if he would make the distinction at this age but I need to before I end up drilling into him that we don't love him when we discipline him. Already there have been instances where after we have to warn him about something, he gets upset or embarassed and wants to "walk" with us or have "up up", I think his way of wanting to make sure we still love him. It breaks my heart when I realize that our discipline is being received that way and drives me to keep honing our discipline skills so that Tobey doesn't feel personally rejected.

But I have to admit that with breaking all these "rules", after the stern low-voice talk (so I couldn't be heard on the baby monitor by my mom), he stayed still for the diaper change and we didn't power struggle anymore. But what was short-term gain I hope didn't cause long-term damage.