Tobey: School troublemaker

It's happened again. A couple weeks ago, Miss Crystal took me aside and told me that Tobey had pushed a particular classmate. After asking us to talk to Tobey about it, she said not to worry, that it happens every year. "Yeah, but you never hope it's your own kid," was my reply.

It's happened again. Miss Allison flagged me over and told me that Tobey got a timeout in circle time today for not listening and banging on the ground (being silly, I could imagine). I thanked her for letting me know. She suggested maybe taking a favorite toy from him or anything that would work. I have yet to talk to Tobey about today's incident because we went out to lunch with Minette and Cedric and promptly went into nap.

I keep telling myself that I'm sure other parents are getting pulled aside and told their kids got a timeout. And a timeout for BAD behavior, not like Joshua F. who gets the "thinking chair" for being chatty. But somehow I never see anyone else getting pulled aside. The other kids seem to come out of class with a smile on their face, obediently walking away with their parent to go home. Meanwhile, Tobey is running around with me sometimes having to call him back from screaming in the courtyard or shoving Eli in excitement. While walking out, I asked Moria if Nicole tells her what they do in class and she said, "Oh yeah, she tells me." Meanwhile, I ask Tobey and he says, "Duku!"

Actually, today seemed like an off day for more than just Tobey. One kid had a potty accident, one kid came out crying and then Tobey. And more than that, while waiting for Minette and Cedric at school, Tobey had to go to the potty. We got to the bathroom and he peed in his pants, the first accident in well over a month if not since our Vancouver trip. What gives? Luckily, we had Tobey's backpack which had his extra clothes. Moria and I were both like, what's going on? Is it a full moon today?

But full moon or not, Tobey's 2nd timeout/incident doesn't totally surprise me (it's not like I don't think he's capable of that kind of behavior) and it gives me cause for concern. Tom and I will need to talk about consequences if he gets another timeout at school. Seems like all the talks and lessons about why we must behave are going in one ear and out the other. We might have to take away some privileges that he really treasures...but what?